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finfan01
10-21-2006, 09:21 PM
Ok guys...........I need some advice on what to do.....:D I have this HUGE crush on this girl:wink: Only......I don't know how to aproach her and ask her out.....:o For the most part, it is embarassment......the other like 1/3 is fear of rejection.(the fear of most guys).....so basically, I currently have the same problem as Straz did a while ago.(no offense dude)

So......any advice?

By the way, we have been friends for like 4 years, but nothing resembling a relationship. Im so lost...:(

finfan01
10-21-2006, 10:30 PM
:mrt:

NJFINSFAN1
10-21-2006, 10:36 PM
Dude, if she is a friend, talk to her. Tell her how you feel and ask her if she thinks there is a chance. If she says she wants to be friends, then fine, if she says yes then fine.

There is nothing to be afraid of, its when they yes, then start worrying!!!!

nolefin
10-21-2006, 10:37 PM
if you have been friends for 4 years you should not be scared, just do it whats the worst that can happen? its not life or death

d-day
10-21-2006, 10:49 PM
if you have been friends for 4 years you should not be scared, just do it whats the worst that can happen? its not life or death

no but it is hump or death

choose hump

lazareth
10-21-2006, 11:00 PM
Ok guys...........I need some advice on what to do.....:D I have this HUGE crush on this girl:wink: Only......I don't know how to aproach her and ask her out.....:o For the most part, it is embarassment......the other like 1/3 is fear of rejection.(the fear of most guys).....so basically, I currently have the same problem as Straz did a while ago.(no offense dude)

So......any advice?

By the way, we have been friends for like 4 years, but nothing resembling a relationship. Im so lost...:(
do whatever Brit tells you to

Silverphin
10-21-2006, 11:02 PM
Take NJ's and Lazereth's advice.

finfan01
10-21-2006, 11:04 PM
Thanks guys.........it is just a little awkward......its like i dont want to ruin a friendship....:(

Silverphin
10-21-2006, 11:12 PM
Thanks guys.........it is just a little awkward......its like i dont want to ruin a friendship....:(

Look bro, if y'all are friends, here's the way I see it.

A). She says yes, you make sure that y'all still stay friends, just in case something happens and y'all part. (Unless that something is a major ***** move, like if cheating was involved, then that probably won't be so easy).

B). She says no. So what? Take a day away from her to get over with, then continue the friendship.

finfan01
10-21-2006, 11:21 PM
Thanks......to all..........I'll talk to her next time I see her...it is just that I needed some confidence and some advice..........I'll say what happens either tomorrow or later tonight if I talk to her...:D

King Nate
10-21-2006, 11:26 PM
Bad news, buddy. If you think you guys are friends, then she definitely does. That means she put you in Friend Town and there are no plans for relocation. If you approach her with relationship talk it is more than likely going to end in things like "I love you like a brother" or "I don't want to ruin our friendship". And that's great and all but it's not what you are after.

So my advice to you is remain being her friend (unless you can't handle not being in a relationship with her in which case I would say to break away slowly from her all together) and go get to know some other girls that you find attractive and seem worthy of dates. Just don't let them put you in Friend Town. It's very tricky and I'd help you stay out of it but I still haven't figured that one out yet either.

Dammit!

lazareth
10-21-2006, 11:29 PM
It's very tricky and I'd help you stay out of it but I still haven't figured that one out yet either.

Dammit! :lol:

finfan01
10-21-2006, 11:33 PM
Bad news, buddy. If you think you guys are friends, then she definitely does. That means she put you in Friend Town and there are no plans for relocation. If you approach her with relationship talk it is more than likely going to end in things like "I love you like a brother" or "I don't want to ruin our friendship". And that's great and all but it's not what you are after.

So my advice to you is remain being her friend (unless you can't handle not being in a relationship with her in which case I would say to break away slowly from her all together) and go get to know some other girls that you find attractive and seem worthy of dates. Just don't let them put you in Friend Town. It's very tricky and I'd help you stay out of it but I still haven't figured that one out yet either.

Dammit!

Crap......havent thought of that.......:mad:dam! Umm........crap:shakeno:

Noodle Arm
10-21-2006, 11:34 PM
This has turned in to Love Lounge lately. Listen to d-day...he's The Love Doctor....writing a prescription....for romance!

NaboCane
10-22-2006, 12:06 AM
Bad news, buddy. If you think you guys are friends, then she definitely does. That means she put you in Friend Town and there are no plans for relocation. If you approach her with relationship talk it is more than likely going to end in things like "I love you like a brother" or "I don't want to ruin our friendship". And that's great and all but it's not what you are after.

So my advice to you is remain being her friend (unless you can't handle not being in a relationship with her in which case I would say to break away slowly from her all together) and go get to know some other girls that you find attractive and seem worthy of dates. Just don't let them put you in Friend Town. It's very tricky and I'd help you stay out of it but I still haven't figured that one out yet either.

Dammit!

:yes: a thousand times over. This man knows from whence he speaks.

But hey, hang around...someday she might have a weak moment, and at least you can get to the badunkadunk if nothing else. Remember, it's not a crashing wave that wears down the stone...it's the constant drop of water over time.

Just don't ever think that it's gonna be serious.

finfan01
10-22-2006, 12:09 AM
:hmph:Never?:wall:

King Nate
10-22-2006, 12:11 AM
:hmph:Never?:wall:

Sorry. I know I just ruined your night but you'll appreciate all the months and maybe years of agony I just saved you.

lazareth
10-22-2006, 12:12 AM
:hmph:Never?:wall:
unfortunately, you can get all the advice in the world...and it still hinges on the fickle mystery that is women

finfan01
10-22-2006, 12:12 AM
Sorry. I know I just ruined your night but you'll appreciate all the months and maybe years of agony I just saved you.

Could be true.....whatever....in 2 years...there is always college!:groucho:

:wink:

Im still kinda bummed-out tho

King Felix
10-22-2006, 12:13 AM
am i the only 16 year old on this site, that hasnt asked for advice?

finfan01
10-22-2006, 12:14 AM
am i the only 16 year old on this site, that hasnt asked for advice?

Probably........for me, this age is quite troubling....pressure, school, girls....dam:eek:

King Nate
10-22-2006, 12:14 AM
unfortunately, you can get all the advice in the world...and it still hinges on the fickle mystery that is women


So true. You see fin, the probably lies in that it's not that guys don't know what women want, it's that women don't know what women want.

finfan01
10-22-2006, 12:16 AM
Its too bad what happened to Mel Gibson...he knew what women wanted:lol:

King Nate
10-22-2006, 12:19 AM
Its too bad what happened to Mel Gibson...he knew what women wanted:lol:

Yeah, didn't he get that power after he was electrocuted?

I wouldn't try that. It'd probably kill you. But then again, probably doesn't mean definitely!

finfan01
10-22-2006, 12:24 AM
Yeah, didn't he get that power after he was electrocuted?

I wouldn't try that. It'd probably kill you. But then again, probably doesn't mean definitely!

:sidelol:not that desperate........without the whole..."chance of death thing"....I would have given it a shot!:sidelol:

lazareth
10-22-2006, 12:26 AM
if you want a "relationship" with a girl ( though why you would want that at 16 :shakeno: ) then it is generally better to have one with someone who you are friends with first

if you just want to fool around, use your girl "friends" to hook you up with some

finfan01
10-22-2006, 12:28 AM
if you want a "relationship" with a girl ( though why you would want that at 16 :shakeno: ) then it is generally better to have one with someone who you are friends with first

if you just want to fool around, use your girl "friends" to hook you up with some

NO doubt............not looking for a relationship.....just someone to chill with and be cool with.............but.....it'll all work itself out in the end:wink:

lazareth
10-22-2006, 12:34 AM
NO doubt............not looking for a relationship.....just someone to chill with and be cool with.............but.....it'll all work itself out in the end:wink: wait, do you know she's into that? :eek:

King Felix
10-22-2006, 12:34 AM
:ricky:

finfan01
10-22-2006, 12:35 AM
:jawdrop::hmmm:

oh my God.......:lol:

King Felix
10-22-2006, 12:37 AM
wait, do you know she's into that? :eek::sidelol:
you sick old man

lazareth
10-22-2006, 12:42 AM
:sidelol:
you sick old man
hey, i'm not old

finfan01
10-22-2006, 12:44 AM
that still leaves "you sick":D

King Nate
10-22-2006, 12:44 AM
hey, i'm not old


You tell that young whippersnapper!

lazareth
10-22-2006, 12:46 AM
that still leaves "you sick":D
+1 for you :lol:

finfan01
10-22-2006, 12:48 AM
+1 for you :lol:

yay!:lol:

King Felix
10-22-2006, 12:51 AM
hey, i'm not oldfine...you sick man

lazareth
10-22-2006, 12:54 AM
fine...you sick man actually, i'm not really a man...i just play one on FH

finfan01
10-22-2006, 12:55 AM
:eek:
actually, i'm not really a man...i just play one on FH

King Felix
10-22-2006, 12:56 AM
actually, i'm not really a man...i just play one on FH......:lol:

lazareth
10-22-2006, 01:01 AM
yeah, 'cause in reality I am The Man

here...well, let's just say it's hard to compete with D-Day and The Mor

finfan01
10-22-2006, 01:02 AM
The Mor gets my vote :yes:

no offense Lazareth........you puppet lover.......:wink:

lazareth
10-22-2006, 01:13 AM
The Mor gets my vote :yes:

no offense Lazareth........you puppet lover.......:wink:
no hard feelings here...The Mor gets my vote too (unless he is up against D-Day of course)

finfan01
10-22-2006, 01:14 AM
Of course! :D

King Felix
10-22-2006, 01:16 AM
al gore gets my vote :rolleyes:

lazareth
10-22-2006, 01:17 AM
al gore gets my vote :rolleyes:
damn...a little late aren't ya?

*we'll ignore that fact that you can't really vote*

King Felix
10-22-2006, 01:20 AM
john kerry gets my vote :rolleyes:

King Nate
10-22-2006, 01:22 AM
damn...a little late aren't ya?

*we'll ignore that fact that you can't really vote*

Yeah, you hippie!

lazareth
10-22-2006, 01:23 AM
john kerry gets my vote :rolleyes:
ok, ok...c2c, we need to get this thing back on topic...go ahead, give him some advice

p.s. i am old :boohoo:

p.s.s. i married :boohoo: :boohoo:

King Felix
10-22-2006, 01:24 AM
dont talk any girl right now too serious...in highschool alot of things change

King Nate
10-22-2006, 01:26 AM
dont talk any girl right now too serious...in highschool alot of things change

And then once you get to college, there are more girls than you'll know what to do with.

:hump:
:hump::hump:
:hump::hump::hump:

finfan01
10-22-2006, 01:28 AM
And then once you get to college, there are more girls than you'll know what to do with.

:hump:
:hump::hump:
:hump::hump::hump:

Nothing to do except climb the :hump: "stairs" to happiness in college:D

King Nate
10-22-2006, 01:30 AM
Nothing to do except climb the :hump: "stairs" to happiness in college:D

Exac:hump:tly.

King Felix
10-22-2006, 01:31 AM
college....how the **** am i supposed to get into one of those?

lazareth
10-22-2006, 01:41 AM
college....how the **** am i supposed to get into one of those?
why couldn't you?
bad grades? no athletic ability? halitosis?

finfan01
10-22-2006, 01:42 AM
All o the above? jk:wink:

King Nate
10-22-2006, 01:43 AM
why couldn't you?
bad grades? no athletic ability? halitosis?

Maybe he suffers from the gum disease GINGIVITIS!

King Felix
10-22-2006, 01:43 AM
bad grades i have like a 2.2 gpa through 2 years thats a C avg

d-day
10-22-2006, 01:44 AM
Maybe he suffers from the gum disease GINGIVITIS!

:lol: - that was the funniest thing i ever seen you post :hi5:

:golfclap:

lazareth
10-22-2006, 01:49 AM
bad grades i have like a 2.2 gpa through 2 years thats a C avg
bright side is, if that's the best you do over the next 2...that's why they have community college

King Nate
10-22-2006, 01:50 AM
:lol: - that was the funniest thing i ever seen you post :hi5:

:golfclap:

:bravo:

King Felix
10-22-2006, 01:50 AM
bright side is, if that's the best you do over the next 2...that's why they have community collegeyeah........im gonna go to community college and get a good gpa.....then goto the number 1 party school.......hopefully

finfan01
10-22-2006, 01:51 AM
Ohio University....Athens, Ohio

lazareth
10-22-2006, 01:52 AM
:bravo:
*******

King Nate
10-22-2006, 01:53 AM
You deserve it.

Thanks! That was very sincere!

lazareth
10-22-2006, 01:54 AM
Thanks! That was very sincere!
:oldman: mods! MODS!

King Nate
10-22-2006, 01:55 AM
You're the best.

More accolades? Please Panzer, it's too much!

lazareth
10-22-2006, 02:18 AM
Bend over more? Please Panzer, it's too big!c'mon...you can do it :yes:

BritP
10-22-2006, 12:29 PM
Ohio University....Athens, Ohio

Aint that the truth. I've got some friends down there and they party 24/7.

BritP
10-22-2006, 12:30 PM
no hard feelings here...The Mor gets my vote too (unless he is up against D-Day of course)

d-day gets all the love around here. :lol:

d-day
10-22-2006, 12:50 PM
d-day gets all the love around here. :lol:

*MWAH*

XOXOXOXOXOXO


-d

finfan01
10-22-2006, 07:10 PM
Aint that the truth. I've got some friends down there and they party 24/7.

Its crazy......reefer madness rating is like #3 in the nation I think.....(no joke)..........alcohol is prodominant too.:D

Timmy54
10-23-2006, 12:38 PM
you need to watch the movie "just friends". it will explain it all to you

In_Flames
10-23-2006, 12:48 PM
you need to watch the movie "just friends". it will explain it all to you

:lol: watched that last night...good advice

Stitches
10-23-2006, 12:51 PM
Its crazy......reefer madness rating is like #3 in the nation I think.....(no joke)..........alcohol is prodominant too.:D

Well they are home to the mardi gras of the midwest, which happens to be taking place this weekend.

Stitches
10-23-2006, 12:56 PM
Bad news, buddy. If you think you guys are friends, then she definitely does. That means she put you in Friend Town and there are no plans for relocation. If you approach her with relationship talk it is more than likely going to end in things like "I love you like a brother" or "I don't want to ruin our friendship". And that's great and all but it's not what you are after.

So my advice to you is remain being her friend (unless you can't handle not being in a relationship with her in which case I would say to break away slowly from her all together) and go get to know some other girls that you find attractive and seem worthy of dates. Just don't let them put you in Friend Town. It's very tricky and I'd help you stay out of it but I still haven't figured that one out yet either.

Dammit!

I hate friend town. And at the same time it can be cool. But most of the time I hate it.