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BAMAPHIN 22
11-04-2006, 06:55 PM
Below are eight types of guys that women consistently stay away from. I have compiled this list from conversations (http://ca.askmen.com/dating/heidi_100/141_dating_girl.html#) I've had with numerous women regarding the behaviors they dislike in men.

But don't worry if you recognize some of the following traits in yourself -- most of them aren't deal-breakers. The idea here is not to change your personality, but rather to keep certain female-unfriendly behaviors in check. Read on to find out what women dislike, so you'll be able to make a better impression next time around.

1. The Needy Guy
He is overly emotional and shares all his feelings with her right away. The Needy Guy also doubts himself and needs constant reassurance about his relationship, work and friendships.

Why he is so unappealing: Confidence (http://ca.askmen.com/dating/heidi_100/141_dating_girl.html#) and independence are very sexy traits in a man -- insecurity and dependence are not. Most women look for a strong partner they can lean on. So if you are always leaning on her -- especially in the early stages of a relationship -- she might doubt your ability to do this. And since women tend to come into relationships with all sorts of insecurities, she won't want to deal with yours as well as her own.

What to do if you're that guy: Timing is everything, so you just need to keep your feelings in check at the beginning of the relationship. Try to hold off on sharing all your feelings or divulging your insecurities. Once you are far enough along in the relationship, you can share as much as you want. By that point, she'll appreciate knowing what's on your mind.

2. The Predictable Guy
Women don't like the Predictable Guy because they know exactly how he'll react to everything. He follows formulas and never wants to do anything differently. For example, he'd never surprise a woman by spontaneously taking her out for the night.

Why he is so unappealing: Women look for a certain amount of unpredictability in a man -- they want a free spirit. This is why some women seem to be drawn to the notorious "bad boy (http://www.srch-results.com/lm/rtl3.asp?si=77&k=bad%20boy)." It's not that they are drawn to his badness exactly, but rather to his unpredictability.
How to avoid being predictable, arrogant, boorish, and more.


What to do if you're that guy: You don't have to be "bad" (http://ca.askmen.com/dating/curtsmith_100/126_dating_advice.html) or a completely free spirit to win her over. But try to mix things up -- particularly at the beginning of a relationship (http://ca.askmen.com/dating/heidi_100/141b_dating_girl.html#). Call her and tell her you want to go to the countryside for the day, or for an impromptu meal. After she gets to know you, she won't mind as much if you slip back into your routine a bit. But don't forget to continue to surprise her once in a while -- doing so will keep the relationship fresh.
3. The Arrogant Guy

He has a huge ego and he's condescending. He is also rude -- not necessarily to her, but to anyone he perceives as beneath him. And that's just as bad as being rude directly to her.


Why he is so unappealing: A woman often looks at how a man treats other people to assess his personality. So even though you might be nice to her on a date, she'll be paying attention (http://ca.askmen.com/dating/heidi_100/141b_dating_girl.html#) to how you act with other people too.

What to do if you're that guy: No woman wants to be talked down to, so I shouldn't have to tell you to shed the ego when you are dealing with her directly. But in order to really impress her, you need to treat everyone around you with a certain amount of respect -- because she'll be watching.
4. The Boorish Guy

The Boorish Guy doesn't try to hide the fact that he's checking out other women (http://ca.askmen.com/dating/curtsmith_100/132_dating_advice.html) while in her presence; he flirts with the waitress and he even goes as far as to brag about his past conquests. Overall, he lacks respect for women.


Why he is so unappealing: Not only is this type of behavior infuriating, it can also be bad for a woman's self-esteem (http://ca.askmen.com/dating/heidi_100/141b_dating_girl.html#). If you act like this when you are first getting to know a woman, you won't stand a chance.

What to do if you're that guy: If you can't curb this kind of behavior permanently, then you at least have to keep it in check when making a first impression. Keep your flirting (http://ca.askmen.com/dating/heidi_100/141b_dating_girl.html#) and wandering eyes at bay -- and maybe eventually it'll become a habit. Because, truthfully, if you introduce this kind of behavior into a relationship at any point, she won't be pleased.
5. The Cheap Guy
He invites a woman to dinner and then subtly suggests they go Dutch (http://ca.askmen.com/dating/heidi_100/128_dating_girl.html). He never splurges to buy her flowers and he always opts for the cheapest wine.

He makes her feel like they're on a tight budget from the very first date (http://ca.askmen.com/dating/heidi_100/141b_dating_girl.html#).

Why he is so unappealing: Your first few dates should always be carefree; the words "saving" and "budget" shouldn't come up. If she spends the first date picturing a lifetime of penny-pinching with you, you're out of luck.

What to do if you're that guy: Loosen up the purse strings a little when you're courting a woman. You don't need to spend (http://ca.askmen.com/dating/heidi_100/141b_dating_girl.html#) a fortune to make a good impression, but you do need to make her feel like she's special. Flowers are a nice touch once in a while.
Don't argue all the time, act holier-than-thou or talk trash about women if you want a second date...


6. The Arguer
This type of guy turns every conversation (http://ca.askmen.com/dating/heidi_100/141c_dating_girl.html#) into an argument. When he takes a woman out, he makes her feel like she's in debate class rather than on a date. And in doing so, he makes her feel defensive and self-conscious.

Why he is so unappealing: A date should be a pleasant experience, but if she's on the defensive the whole time, she will not be enjoying herself.

Remember this: Constant arguing and debating is a stress -- and you certainly don't want her to associate you with a stressful experience.

What to do if you're that guy: Most importantly, relax. If you are this type of guy, you probably revert to debating because you are nervous or unsure of what to say. So before the date, brainstorm conversation topics (http://ca.askmen.com/dating/dating_top_ten_60/99_dating_list.html) and questions you can ask her. That way, you won't be as likely to revert to arguing during lulls in the conversation.

7. The Self-Righteous Guy
This guy is very judgmental of others. He probably doesn't drink or smoke, and he doesn't hesitate to tell others to follow suit. From the very first date (http://ca.askmen.com/dating/heidi_100/141c_dating_girl.html#), he'll preach to a woman, telling her she shouldn't drink wine or get dessert.
Why he is so unappealing: No one wants to be judged, especially on a date. She'll just find it annoying and rude.

What to do if you're that guy: You can preach a little once you are actually in a relationship (http://ca.askmen.com/dating/heidi_100/141c_dating_girl.html#). But until that point, her drinking, smoking and dessert-eating habits are none of your business.

8. The Misogynist
This guy makes no secret of his bitterness toward women. On a date, he can't help but exude negativity toward his companion and the entire female gender by making rude and insulting comments.

Why he is so unappealing: This is the only type of behavior on this list that is, in fact, a total deal-breaker. And it's not surprising. What woman do you know that would like to be in a relationship with a man like this?
What to do if you're that guy: You need to reconsider your attitude if you are this type of guy. This type of behavior is not only rude and nasty, it is often the last straw in breaking up a relationship.

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Majpain
11-04-2006, 07:14 PM
:whew: I'm not one of them :)

Rocky Raccoon
11-04-2006, 07:24 PM
I don't think I'm any of those.

SCall13
11-04-2006, 07:34 PM
I'm none of the above. Thank goodness.

FinsNCanes
11-04-2006, 07:43 PM
Basically women just want a guy with money who shuts up basically? That's what it sounds like to me.

Pennington's Rocket Arm
11-04-2006, 08:29 PM
i kinda like needy guys. it's fun to boss 'em around.

unifiedtheory
11-04-2006, 08:31 PM
i kinda like needy guys. it's fun to boss 'em around.
You don't seem like a bossy girl....:sidelol:

Pennington's Rocket Arm
11-04-2006, 08:43 PM
You don't seem like a bossy girl....:sidelol:
:buttkick:

gillderais
11-04-2006, 08:49 PM
Basically women just want a guy with money who shuts up basically? That's what it sounds like to me.

:yeahthat:

"Now I aint sayin she a gold digger (When I'm in Need)"
"But she aint messin wit no broke niggas (she steal me money)"

Spray Mucus
11-04-2006, 09:00 PM
:whew: I'm not one of them :)


I don't think I'm any of those.


I'm none of the above. Thank goodness.

Unfortunatly girls also don't like type #9 either, you know the type of guy who spend 10 hours a day on line chatting with a "model" from Ohio who they will never get...

Are any of you guys that type?

Pennington's Rocket Arm
11-04-2006, 09:00 PM
:yeahthat:

"Now I aint sayin she a gold digger (When I'm in Need)"
"But she aint messin wit no broke niggas (she steal me money)"
that's Shakespeare, right?

gillderais
11-04-2006, 09:02 PM
that's Shakespeare, right?

No, it's actually from the great poet Kanye West.

Pennington's Rocket Arm
11-04-2006, 09:09 PM
No, it's actually from the great poet Kanye West.
yes his greatness speaks volumes to me. http://www.finheaven.com/clear.gif

dreday
11-04-2006, 09:19 PM
Yep about sums up everything (almost) I talked about in the DYD thread.Good lookin out Bama.:up: :cooldude: Still some things they left off tho.

gillderais
11-04-2006, 09:25 PM
Unfortunatly girls also don't like type #9 either, you know the type of guy who spend 10 hours a day on line chatting with a "model" from Ohio who they will never get...

Are any of you guys that type?

I'm missing another type here. Where is Type 10: The Pimp.

:pimp:

"I be pimpin'!"

Link
11-04-2006, 09:28 PM
WOOOOOOO!!!

Nintendo Nerds that are obsessed with football isn't on there! :goof:

Colorado Dolfan
11-05-2006, 12:24 AM
WOOOOOOO!!!

Nintendo Nerds that are obsessed with football isn't on there! :goof:
You missed 1a. It was in really small print... Here it is blown up to legible size:


1a. Link
Nintendo nerd that is obsessed with football... 'Nuff said.

Why he is so unappealing: If it doesn't have readily accessible buttons, he ain't interested. Most women don't get so excited by a "high score" or the latest play your favorite football player made. They're more apt to watch football with you just to check out the players.

What to do if you're that guy: Put down the controller and ask a girl out. Sometimes they say yes...
:lol: :wink: :goof:

Mindwarp
11-05-2006, 12:27 AM
im #3 :yes:

Aqua4Ever04
11-05-2006, 12:45 AM
What about the guy who is more obsessed with the Dolphins then he ever will be with any woman?

Link
11-05-2006, 01:00 AM
You missed 1a. It was in really small print... Here it is blown up to legible size:


:lol: :wink: :goof:

NEVER!!! :lol:

Wait.... :tantrum: :tantrum: :tantrum:

:sidelol: :sidelol: :sidelol:

Too funny man.

Pennington's Rocket Arm
11-05-2006, 01:16 AM
im #3 :yes:
and alone.

BritP
11-05-2006, 01:37 AM
Actually that article is 'right on'. 2 thumbs up.

lazareth
11-05-2006, 02:12 AM
Unfortunatly girls also don't like type #9 either, you know the type of guy who spend 10 hours a day on line chatting with a "model" from Ohio who they will never get...

Are any of you guys that type?
damn somebody needs a hug

Link
11-05-2006, 02:31 AM
damn somebody needs a hug

Hey at least you aren't Link. :boohoo:

Silverphin
11-05-2006, 10:53 AM
I'm sort of number 1. But I don't share my feelings frequently. Only when it is the right time.

Silverphin
11-05-2006, 10:53 AM
You missed 1a. It was in really small print... Here it is blown up to legible size:


:lol: :wink: :goof:


NINTENDOWNED!

BritP
11-05-2006, 11:15 AM
Hey at least you aren't Link. :boohoo:

*HUG*

BritP
11-05-2006, 11:15 AM
damn somebody needs a hug

Spray gets a lil testy when his boys aren't on to harrass.

*HUG* on Panzer!

Spray Mucus
11-05-2006, 06:05 PM
Spray gets a lil testy when his boys aren't on to harrass.

*HUG* on Panzer!

When does this girl ever stop talking about my nuts?

Link
11-05-2006, 06:14 PM
NINTENDOWNED!

:hmph:

Majpain
11-05-2006, 06:21 PM
Unfortunatly girls also don't like type #9 either, you know the type of guy who spend 10 hours a day on line chatting with a "model" from Ohio who they will never get...

Are any of you guys that type?

Dont hate because she stoped answering your emails :lol:

Spray Mucus
11-05-2006, 06:27 PM
Dont hate because she stoped answering your emails :lol:

Well looky looky who decided to perk up. Have you told Britt about how your mom writes your name in your underoos?

Or have you shown Britt the cool picture you drew of you and her when you 2 get older?



http://www.finheaven.com/images/imported/2006/11/Childrensdrawings2-1.jpg

Maj wants to grow up to be a Pirate and change his Name to Romy the Swash buckler everybody!

Lappy
11-05-2006, 06:31 PM
Well looky looky who decided to perk up. Have you told Britt about how your mom writes your name in your underoos?

Or have you shown Britt the cool picture you drew of you and her when you 2 get older?



http://www.youareart.co.uk/img/Childrens-drawings2.jpg

Maj wants to grow up to be a Pirate and change his Name to Romy the Shash buckler everybody!

He got a star sticker for that picture!

he's going to steal a booty drawing like that.

Spray Mucus
11-05-2006, 06:37 PM
He got a star sticker for that picture!

he's going to steal a booty drawing like that.

His mom also made his favorite for dinner. Dinosaur chicken nuggets, Capri sun, mashed potatos. She also made corn that of corse he didn't want to eat cuz Maj/Romy hates his veggies! He didn't leave the table till every last corn kernal was eatin.

YOu should have seen his BM the next day. Dinosaur shaped corn nuggets floating in a bowl.

Hey Maj, you should have drawn a picture of that to show Britt!

Lappy
11-05-2006, 06:39 PM
His mom also made his favorite for dinner. Dinosaur chicken nuggets, Capri sun, mashed potatos. She also made corn that of corse he didn't want to eat cuz Maj/Romy hates his veggies! He didn't leave the table till every last corn kernal was eatin.

YOu should have seen his BM the next day. Dinosaur shaped corn nuggets floating in a bowl.

Hey Maj, you should have drawn a picture of that to show Britt!

that would be a crappy gift Spray what are you talking about?

Majpain
11-05-2006, 06:40 PM
LMAO.


New nick is Romy :lol:

Spray Mucus
11-05-2006, 06:44 PM
that would have a crappy gift Spray what are you talking about?

Better than what he got her last year. A chia pet! Everybody knows Britt is allergic to chia furr!

Lappy
11-05-2006, 06:46 PM
Better than what he got her last year. A chia pet! Everybody knows Britt is allergic to chia furr!

she caught crabs from a chia!

Spray Mucus
11-05-2006, 06:50 PM
she caught crabs from a chia!

I know, remember when she named all the Crabs after the 7 Dwarves

Sneezey
Bashful
Doc
Graby
touchy
pinchy
& ichy

Lappy
11-05-2006, 06:52 PM
I know, remember when she named all the Crabs after the 7 Dwarves

Sneezey
Bashful
Doc
Graby
touchy
pinchy
& ichy

oh man you forgot Jeff!

Majpain
11-05-2006, 06:53 PM
Thread has been Hijacked.

Lappy
11-05-2006, 06:56 PM
Thread has been Hijacked.

I know I totally think Brit should stick to the LL!

Spray Mucus
11-05-2006, 06:56 PM
oh man you forgot Jeff!

You where suppose to pick him up!

oh my gawd, if that strange man who always hangs around the school yard lured our little Dwarf in with a pickle, I'll never forgive you Lappy!

Lappy
11-05-2006, 07:19 PM
You where suppose to pick him up!

oh my gawd, if that strange man who always hangs around the school yard lured our little Dwarf in with a pickle, I'll never forgive you Lappy!

is G-ma picked him up, took him to Bealles and bought him a Link jersey!

greatwade
11-06-2006, 10:16 AM
Unfortunatly girls also don't like type #9 either, you know the type of guy who spend 10 hours a day on line chatting with a "model" from Ohio who they will never get...

Are any of you guys that type?

http://www.finheaven.com/clear.gif

But, my friend, that is why the ladies will a love you. Pure, ruthless, comic GENIUS. Borat kinda sucked btw.

SCall13
11-06-2006, 10:24 AM
Unfortunatly girls also don't like type #9 either, you know the type of guy who spend 10 hours a day on line chatting with a "model" from Ohio who they will never get...

Are any of you guys that type?


LOL. Very funny. But I'm not on here THAT much. I have to work, coach, and visit other models on line. :lol:

Buddwalk
11-06-2006, 11:14 AM
Unfortunatly girls also don't like type #9 either, you know the type of guy who spend 10 hours a day on line chatting with a "model" from Ohio who they will never get...

Are any of you guys that type?

:sidelol: :sidelol: :sidelol: :sidelol: :sidelol:

http://www.finheaven.com/images/imported/2006/11/owned_help-1.jpg

greatwade
11-06-2006, 11:20 AM
:sidelol: :sidelol: :sidelol: :sidelol: :sidelol:

http://www.birkoph.com/owned/owned_help.jpg

Spray is so awesome that those three (and possibly others) will now
forever be known as type nines, #9s, and 9 balls. Spray :hi5:

http://www.finheaven.com/clear.gif

Rocky Raccoon
11-06-2006, 11:58 AM
Unfortunatly girls also don't like type #9 either, you know the type of guy who spend 10 hours a day on line chatting with a "model" from Ohio who they will never get...

Are any of you guys that type?

:lol: but then again, you have more posts in that thread than I do :wink:

Pennington's Rocket Arm
11-06-2006, 12:00 PM
i'm lost. who's the model from ohio?

Rocky Raccoon
11-06-2006, 12:00 PM
i'm lost. who's the model from ohio?

BritP

greatwade
11-06-2006, 12:16 PM
I'm a model, you know what I mean? And I shake my little ash in Pompton.

Stitches
11-06-2006, 12:32 PM
I'm a model, you know what I mean? And I shake my little ash in Pompton.

Model Citizen?

greatwade
11-06-2006, 12:42 PM
Model Citizen?

American

Timmy54
11-06-2006, 01:22 PM
model for adult toys!!1 yeah baby

Stitches
11-06-2006, 02:01 PM
model for adult toys!!1 yeah baby

Good job Timmah, way to get the thread closed on us.

greatwade
11-06-2006, 02:30 PM
Wasn't him

:lol:

theghost
11-06-2006, 02:44 PM
Type #1337 - the man who pretends not to care that a hot model posts on a mostly male dominated message board, yet can only type one handed when she is on.

Majpain
11-06-2006, 02:55 PM
Romy is glad to be a #9 :D :lol:

Stitches
11-06-2006, 03:01 PM
Wasn't him

Shhhh, don't tell him that.