If any have offended against thee, consider first: what is my relation to men, and that we are made for one another; and in another respect, I was made to be set over them, as a ram over the flock or a bull over the herd...
Second, consider what kind of men they are at table, in bed, and so forth; and particularly, under what compulsions in respect of opinions they are; and as to their acts, consider with what pride they do what they do.
Third, that if men do rightly what they do, we ought not be displeased; but if they do not do right, it is plain that they do so involuntarily and in ignorance. For as every soul is unwillingly deprives of the truth, so also is it unwilling deprives of the power of behaving to each man according to his deserts...
Fourth, consider that thou also doest many things wrong, and that thou art a man like others; and even if thou dost abstain from certain faults, still thou hast the disposition to commit them..
Fifth, consider that thou doest not even understand whether men are doing wrong or not, for many things are done with a certain reference to circumstances.
Sixth, consider when thou art much vexed or grieved, that man's life is only a moment, and after a short time we are all laid out dead.
Seventh, that it is not men's acts that disturb us, for those acts have their foundation in men's ruling principles, but it is our own opinions which disturb us. Take away these opinions then, and resolve to dismiss they judgment about an act as if it were grievous, and thy anger is gone...
Eighth, consider how much pain is brought on us by the anger and vexation caused by such acts than by the acts themselves, at which we are angry and vexed.
Ninth, consider that a good disposition is invincible, if it be genuine, and not an affected smile and acting a part. For what will the most violent man do to thee, if thou continuest to be of a kind disposition towards him...
But if thou wilt, receive also a tenth.. that to expect bad men not to do wrong is madness, for he who expects this desires an impossibility.
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